Challenges when there is no common language in the couple

Talk between Dutchman and she, from Panama

English and Spanish, next:

Managing different languages requires a lot of patience and love.

 You cannot know the person 100%... if you do not have a language in common or one of the two people at least learn the language of the other, this step is urgent. That common language will also be necessary to speak with each other's family.

 The danger of settling for using and a translator is that you may only touch on superficial topics. Also the translator app crashes and can lead to misunderstandings.

 Then a conversation will go slower since it requires Patience and Understanding, to solve the confusion of words.

 This Dutchman says a beautiful phrase: "Love is more (can be more) than a confusion of words."

 It is desirable to have various activities in outdoor places (such as dancing, going to a zoo, etc.) to get to know the person in a "non-verbal" way.

 It is important to know the culture of the other person, since that influences how you handle some situations, not just learning their language.

Spanish 

Manejando diferentes idiomas requiere mucha paciencia y amor.

No puedes conocer a la persona 100%… si no tienen un idioma en común o uno de las dos personas al menos, aprende el idioma del otro, ese paso es urgente. También va ser necesario ese idioma en común para hablar con la familia de cada uno.

El peligro de conformarse con usar y un traductor es que quizá solo se toquen temas superficiales. También la aplicación de traductor falla y puede generar malentendidos.

Entonces una conversación irá más lenta ya que requiere Paciencia y Comprensión, resolver la confusión de palabras.

Este holandés dice una frase bonita: "El amor es más (puede más) que una confusión de palabras".

Es deseable tener actividades varias en lugares exteriores (como bailar, ir a un zoológico, etc) para conocer de manera "no verbal" a la persona.

Es importante conocer la cultura de la otra persona, ya que eso influye en su forma de manejar algunas situaciones, no limitarse a aprender su idioma.

Couples that do not speak the same language, are they viable?

Link - Video - Interview with a couple where she is from Colombia (Spanish) and he is American (English) 

In the world of couple relationships there are those skeptics of love who, at the slightest setback, decide to break the relationship and there are those who believe that love conquers everything and face any difficulty with the conviction that they can stay together. And that is the attitude that is needed if you want to embark on what is called a multicultural couple, when both members belong to cultures so distant and different that they do not even speak the same language.

multicultural couples

It is generally accepted that the romantic relationships that are most likely to be successful are those balanced couples where, although there may be certain differences in character, homogeneity prevails in terms of ideology, beliefs, studies and social status. Fundamentally because of not adding more conflicts of understanding than those that arise between both sexes and those derived from coexistence.

However, it is increasingly common to see couples who attract attention because they are so far from their cultures. Couples of Easterners with Westerners, Arabs with Europeans, or simply with different languages, are seen on our streets and even in the world of the heart. And it is that now the world is more open and love has no borders.

Undoubtedly, having a partner from another country can greatly enrich you, by contributing to the relationship a different vision of the world, new customs, different hours or exotic cuisine. A luxury that you can discover little by little in your own home with the help of your love. But many people look askance at these types of multicultural couples. How do they understand each other?

The language of love

Taking into account that one of the pillars of a stable relationship is good communication, it may be thought that couples who speak different languages are doomed to fail. But let's be honest; communication is conspicuous by its absence in couples where both members speak the same language. Because comprehension and understanding are not reached through the same language, but through a common interest.

For this reason, you can now speak Spanish and your partner Swahili, and if you have been touched by the arrows of love, you can have a more solid relationship with him than with your ex-boyfriend from Madrid who speaks Spanish just like you. Although it is true that love is not enough and they will have to make a great effort to approach positions and reach agreements; neither more nor less than the rest of the couples.

Having different cultures and speaking different languages may seem, at first, one more inconvenience. However, it is very likely that if you have fallen in love with someone so culturally distant from you, you are a more open and tolerant person than most. So do not hesitate to take advantage of all the advantages of multiculturalism and discover new ways of life. As long as there is love and respect, the relationship can move forward.